|
Written by Shirley T
|
|
Thursday, 07 August 2008 20:41 |
|
After completing tertiary education and started dating seriously, my mom always reminded me that if I happened to get married, she wished to have me stepping out from my parents' house in a white wedding gown after serving tea ceremony. No party or dinner reception was fine with her. My partner and I could make it as simple as possible as long as the one and only condition was fulfilled. Indirectly, she was hinting that no eloping was allowed. Neither was Las Vegas kind of style! Aha..let us hear my dad's point of view. To him, as long as I am legally married, he is alright. In other words, as soon as I had signed on paper with my partner, my dad would take him as half son or better known as son-in-law. No further question and nothing else is required. Although both my parents are Chinese, their perspectives are totally different. I'd describe my mom as a person whom is more focus on customary and traditional. While my dad is more liberal and inclines to abide modern law instead.
How about you?  Have you ever thought of getting married? Does it merely mean age is catching up and you simply grab someone that come along to tone down the pressure from the relatives? Or a knot that ties two persons together forever till death does us apart? Is it a commitment? Does it mean it is time to get pregnant (for female) since the biological clock is ticking? For me, getting married is life long partnership as I believe in human need for companionship. Not only someone to share my bed with but a soul whom I want to share my joy, laughter and dreams. Someone who hugs and cheers me up when I am in sorrow and holding my hand when I am worried. And I know even the whole world is against me, I still have the someone who cares and loves me! The same vice versa that I would love to do for my soul mate that I am falling in love to.
And wedding?  My significant other and I never fancy an elaborate wedding. Although I'd love to have a simple garden wedding, this was not my priority. In Chinese culture, marriage is not a story between two souls but a relationship between two families of bride and groom. I perceived wedding as a function to get our parents excited. As much as they loved to hold it in customary manner, this was the time to get them thrilled over inviting the relatives, putting up the dinner reception and several traditional events including looking for good date in lunar calendar (Chinese calendar) and sending dowry. In the midst of little grouse, trust me they are indeed very happy to organize the event. We were lucky that they did everything for us!
For all the bachelors out there, wedding is definitely a pleasant experience and hopefully it is a once in a life time opportunity. Life indeed restarts after getting married. Nobody can tell us what it is going to be because the fate or future of our marriage is within our hands. We believe in marriage so make it works for us! Cheers
Trackback(0)
 |
Wedding and Marriage: What does it mean to you?
TrackBack URI for this entry